This is pretty cool. A patient sent me a picture of her hair loss...lessening as we improved oxygen, and got on the right track to support her immune system. I don't know if you can read the captions...it says daily hair loss before starting treatment...one month in... and two months in.
We started working immediately on her oxygen perfusion, which we improved in just a couple weeks, then started some immune protocols, which actually didn't work well...until we got her GI Microbiology test back and identified an infection. Started the protocol for that infection, and she felt even better.
I do a heck of a lot of objective monitoring using blood tests and other labs...this I had never thought of!!
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Friday, October 14, 2011
The Great Flu Debate
It may be the most talked about
health issue year after year. Flu season
is moving in…this year it will be more deadly than…there is a shortage of the
flu vaccine. It seems that Hollywood is doing the
marketing and promotion of the flu vaccine each year.
In any decision that I make, whether that is regarding my health, my time, my life, I apply a bit of basic left brain logic to come up with a decision. I think it may be hard for some to have an unbiased right brain “feel” for what to do, given all the hype and fear surrounding this particular issue.
How about this simple logic…is it (flu vaccine) safe? And if so, does it work?
Is it safe? There are certainly the concerns of using mercury to sterilize the vaccine. I couldn’t find actual data on the National Library of Medicine archives indicating this is an actual finding, but Dr. Hugh Fudenberg, a researcher and biologist, with over 850 published articles, is quoted to have estimated that your risk of Alzheimers disease increases 10 fold following 5 consecutive inoculations with the flu vaccine.
If that is the actual effect, to current seniors who grew up on only one inoculation, (smallpox), what will be the cumulative effect to us and our kids, who are now given around 35 inoculations before age 5, not including the flu vaccine?
There is also the current debate over autism and inoculations. Many doctors find a clear correlation between the increase in vaccinations and the rapid rise in autism. Other doctors don’t. However, the Federal government has paid 1.18 Billion dollars to parents of vaccine injured children since 1988, when the National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program was founded.
(CNN) -- This year's flu vaccine had little or no effectiveness
against influenza-like illnesses, according to a preliminary study released
Thursday (Friday, January 16, 2004 Posted: 9:16 AM EST)
The study, published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's
Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report, looked at workers at Children's Hospital
in Denver, Colorado.
Of the 1,000 people who got the vaccine before November, 149 went on to develop influenza-like illness (14.9 percent). Of the 402 people who did not get the vaccine, 68 got an influenza-like illness (16.9 percent), the study said.
Everybody loves a conspiracy theory,
right? Again, just looking at data and
statistics, so that emotions don’t get involved…JAMA (Journal of the American
Medical Association) reported the results of a survey in the Feb 2002
issue. What they found, was that the
doctors who set the national guidelines for medical care for various diseases,
including recommendations for the flu, are on the payroll of the pharmaceutical
companies. Only 50% of the guideline
authors responded to the survey, and 87% of them acknowledged that they
received compensation of some sort from one or more pharmaceutical
companies. What about the other half of
guideline authors…this article suggests that the reality may be that more than
90% of the doctors who set guidelines for care in this country, actually work
for the pharmaceutical industry.
So, if there is no guarantee of safety, including the possibility of the vaccine being a causative factor in degenerative brain diseases, autism, and increased death rates; and there appears to be no effectiveness of actually doing what is intended, which is to prevent the flu, and that the seniors and children being vaccinated for prevention actually have a greater risk of flu related death, based on raw data…why does this continue?
I believe that the physicians promoting the vaccine are hoping for better results, hoping that the numbers will improve with better vaccines. I believe that people are good, and that they really want vaccines to be safe and work well (as do I, because I got the flu this year, and it wasn’t fun). I believe that money does play a factor, that some of the desire for it to work is because it is so profitable. And if it did work, it would be worthy of a large profit. But the data derived fact is: it doesn’t work, it is potentially dangerous, and based on that data, I hope you can make a more logical and sensible decision for yourself, your kids, and your aging parents and grandparents.
In any decision that I make, whether that is regarding my health, my time, my life, I apply a bit of basic left brain logic to come up with a decision. I think it may be hard for some to have an unbiased right brain “feel” for what to do, given all the hype and fear surrounding this particular issue.
How about this simple logic…is it (flu vaccine) safe? And if so, does it work?
Is it safe? There are certainly the concerns of using mercury to sterilize the vaccine. I couldn’t find actual data on the National Library of Medicine archives indicating this is an actual finding, but Dr. Hugh Fudenberg, a researcher and biologist, with over 850 published articles, is quoted to have estimated that your risk of Alzheimers disease increases 10 fold following 5 consecutive inoculations with the flu vaccine.
If that is the actual effect, to current seniors who grew up on only one inoculation, (smallpox), what will be the cumulative effect to us and our kids, who are now given around 35 inoculations before age 5, not including the flu vaccine?
There is also the current debate over autism and inoculations. Many doctors find a clear correlation between the increase in vaccinations and the rapid rise in autism. Other doctors don’t. However, the Federal government has paid 1.18 Billion dollars to parents of vaccine injured children since 1988, when the National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program was founded.
By the
way, to disprove the Alzheimer's/flu shots connection, some Toronto physicians went to nursing homes and
asked people with Alzheimer's if they remember getting a flu shot. Most
said they didn't remember getting one. Not surprising since Alzheimer's victims
may not remember the name of their spouse. Anyway, based on this
"research" they concluded the flu shots were safe but the disclaimer
at the bottom of the abstract negated its value: "Because of the
self-reported nature of the risk factor questionnaire we cannot exclude the
possibility of recall bias."
National media reported this as "proof" the flu shot was safe.
They didn't mention the disclaimer.
Well,
maybe there is a chance that it is so effective, that the risk is worth the
benefit. Let’s explore some national
headlines, then some actual data.
Headline from CDC website: “Preliminary
Assessment of the Effectiveness of the 2003-04 Inactivated Influenza Vaccine: Colorado, December 2003…Adjusted
vaccine effectiveness for both estimates were not statistically significantly
different from zero.” With my knowledge
of statistics, I can interpret that means it had no benefit.
Of the 1,000 people who got the vaccine before November, 149 went on to develop influenza-like illness (14.9 percent). Of the 402 people who did not get the vaccine, 68 got an influenza-like illness (16.9 percent), the study said.
A study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine this
year after crunching all the numbers from years past…
“Early predictions were that flu vaccines would save the
lives of about half of those vaccinated. Based on U.S. mortality rates from 1968 to
2001, the study by the National Institute
of Allergy and Infectious Diseases found no correlation between increasing
vaccination rates and declining death rates in any age group." The Archives of Internal
Medicine (Arch Intern Med 2005;165:265-272) reports that
influenza vaccination coverage among elderly persons (> or =65 years) in the
United States increased from between 15% and 20% before 1980 to 65% in 2001.
Unexpectedly, estimates of influenza-related mortality in this age group also
increased during this period.” Yes, the
number of flu related deaths has increased as vaccination rates have increased.
Maybe
it works for the children…
January 10, 2004: NY Times, Lawrence Altman, the dean of
American medical writers, reported that 93 children have died from the flu this
season in the US. Alltman states: “Thirty-three of the victims had not been
vaccinated.” So…sixty of the deaths were in vaccinated kids, right?
Follow
my left brain math on this…lets say there were a million kids. We know that less than a quarter of them are
vaccinated (22% according to the CDC), so lets say there are 750,000 non
vaccinated kids and 250,000 vaccinated kids, or 3 non vaccinated kids to every
vaccinated kid in the US population.
Lets even out the death toll to 100…according to the above statistics,
35 non vaccinated kids and 65 vaccinated kids died from the flu. Since there are 3 times more non-vaccinated
kids, and yet more vaccinated kids died, the relative risk of death is 5 ½
times greater if you are vaccinated versus a non vaccinated kid.
Would you prefer more official stats? The CDC states that 135 children died during the
2003-2004 flu season. 59 of these children had received their flu shots. So, that is a different ratio, 43% of the
fatalities were in vaccinated kids, 57% in non vaccinated kids. Sounds a bit better for the use of vaccines, but
remember there are 3 times more non vaccinated kids, so there are many, many
more “unprotected” children. So the
actual statistics indicate that you have over double the risk of death if you
are vaccinated as a kid (2.25 times more deaths per population in this group,
if you are vaccinated).
I’m starting to feel ill…I hope its not the flu.
So, if there is no guarantee of safety, including the possibility of the vaccine being a causative factor in degenerative brain diseases, autism, and increased death rates; and there appears to be no effectiveness of actually doing what is intended, which is to prevent the flu, and that the seniors and children being vaccinated for prevention actually have a greater risk of flu related death, based on raw data…why does this continue?
I believe that the physicians promoting the vaccine are hoping for better results, hoping that the numbers will improve with better vaccines. I believe that people are good, and that they really want vaccines to be safe and work well (as do I, because I got the flu this year, and it wasn’t fun). I believe that money does play a factor, that some of the desire for it to work is because it is so profitable. And if it did work, it would be worthy of a large profit. But the data derived fact is: it doesn’t work, it is potentially dangerous, and based on that data, I hope you can make a more logical and sensible decision for yourself, your kids, and your aging parents and grandparents.
Labels:
Brain Health,
Flu Vaccine,
Politics of Health
Friday, October 7, 2011
LAB TESTING: GIFX
Intestinal Ecology: GIFX
GIFX, is short for GastroIntestinal Effects.
GIFX is a lab that actually tests the complete ecology or
environment of the GI tube.
The GI tube, from mouth to anus, is really an external
structure. It is a semi-permeable tube
that allows absorption of nutrients and elimination of waste.
It contains approximately half of your immune cells and
function. So, if you have allergies,
asthma, frequent colds, ear infections, or sinus infections, the GI tube could
be the problem.
In fact it contains the same mucosal tissues as the sinuses,
so what affects this tube, also affects the sinuses.
The GIFX is a microbial analysis. I describe it as a population analysis of
this very important neighborhood. A
census of sort.
The GIFX uses a complex DNA analysis for microbial contents,
so the days of “purging” are over. (In
the past, for GI analysis, we would give a med that purges the contents for
collection.)
WHAT YOU GET
A full census of who is there and who is not.
As you may know, there are millions of healthy bacterial
inhabitants that function as digestive and immune enhancers. You may have seen the commercials, “Eat this
yogurt and wave goodbye to your digestive distress.”
If the mafia has moved in to the neighborhood, however, the
healthy families of bacteria will not stick around.
We also want to know if there are any illegal immigrants,
mafia or whatever we might call them.
These are the yeast and candida species, bacterial pathogens (bad guys),
and worms, protozoan, or fungal parasites.
In almost every instance where I have struggled helping
someone improve their health, when we ran the GIFX we found a parasite. I don’t know why the parasites are so
confounding, but I have learned from this experience, and now suggest the lab
sooner rather than later!
WHY THIS IS IMPORTANT
The saying goes…you are what you eat. Or you can take it a bit further and say: you
are what you absorb…or you are what you don’t eliminate.
If your GI tube ecology is off, the lining will become
inflamed, which in itself could cause back pain, kidney pain, liver
problems…plus the digestion and absorption process will be compromised, so that
great diet and supplements are ineffective. (sound familiar?)
And, the immune effects are also compromised. You don’t have a significant line of defense;
in fact, your immune system may be preoccupied with battling the yeast or
parasite immigrants. (no offense to
immigrants!)
This constant immune defense is stressful. It activates the adrenal physiology and
whacks out your hormone cycles and blood sugar regulation. It burdens the liver from all the immune
chemicals and clean up required. Now you
have a full blown health problem, not localized to the GI tract.
On the other hand, we can run this test, get a full census
of who is there and who is not there, move out the uninvited guests and replace
the desired inhabitants. And in a couple
months time, you drastically reduce your stress load, immune burden, and
improve your digestive capacity. This
all feels really GOOD! More energy, less
toxic, clear mind.
In fact, I would suggest this test as a wellness profile
rather than just a test for the chronically ill. You never know what you might find until you
look!
Labels:
Immune System,
Infection,
Intestinal Infections
Case Study of the Month
Patient Name: Eva
Condition: Medical
diagnosis is Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, resulting in a variety of symptoms,
including digestive problems, insomnia, right arm and shoulder pain, brain fog,
and lack of energy.
Functional Diagnosis:
What is actually CAUSING her problems…sensitivity to gluten, intestinal
infection, overactive immune system (High T-Helper Cells), adrenal fatigue (low
cortisol), and thyroid function all over the map.
Treatment: We began
with our usual AutoImmune Protocol…including avoiding dietary stressors,
especially know sensitivities such as gluten in her case, along with
transdermal glutathione, vitamin D, and high dose fish oils. We also used botanical medicines (natural) to
remove intestinal infections. In fact,
we are using the whole “4R” approach to healing the intestinal
environment. 1R = Remove infections 2R = Replace digestive enzymes 3R = Repair the intestinal lining and 4R = Reinnoculate with healthy probiotics
bacteria. Each visit, which is every
other week, we reset her meridian system, muscle imbalances, and treat her
physically.
Results: After 8
weeks, she reports that her digestive problems are gone, her pain is gone, her
sleep problems are gone, her brain fog is gone, and her energy is 80%
improved.
Comments: Eva is a
responding very well to our treatment choices.
She still has imbalanced lab findings, so we aren’t sure if she is
feeling as well as she “rates,” or if she is just so happy to finally be seeing
some results. Obviously, we only have
ourselves to compare to when rating things like our energy…she may still be at
30% of someone who is very healthy, but to her, her energy is so much better
than it was…it must be 80%. Hopefully we
will surprise her with improvement to 200% of what she was!!
What is the source of her improvement? As you can see, we are treating multiple
systems, including immune system, digestive system, meridian system (as in
Traditional Chinese Medicine evaluation), and her Musculoskeletal system. All systems affect all systems…and that is a
concept foreign to most doctors who practice specialization. Her adrenal hormones showed some of the best
lab changes in her initial retesting, and we didn’t do anything specific for
her adrenal glands. However, the immune
system is a powerful stimulator of the adrenal stress response, so after years
of infection, eating foods she is reacting to, and attacking her own tissues,
her adrenals were fatigued. So, removing
these immune stimulants, and soothing the immune system, along with physically
treating her pain, another powerful stimulator to the stress system…that was
enough to change hormones, and let her enjoy sleeping through the night.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Stress Capacity: The Bucket Theory
If we dig in to any condition…thyroid problems, cancer,
neuropathy, diabetes, etc., one common thread is stress. Stress increases cortisol and adrenaline
production, which is very useful in times of emergency! It helps us escape…it helps us survive.
Yet, when it is “turned on” or turned up daily, it
compromises our blood sugar regulation, or oxygen delivery, our hormone
balance, our digestion and absorption of vital nutrients…all physiological
needs…requirements…you will develop SOME disease if you compromise your
physiological needs day after day.
It also leads to poor choices…it makes us crave sugar,
alcohol, and other addictive habits.
We all have a capacity for stress…and the stronger and
healthier your body and mind…the greater your capacity. I used to do a stress challenge in my
seminars…we would eat about 70 grams of carbs (sugar)…in the form of cookies
and juice, and measure our blood sugar after the seminar. A person whose stress capacity is high would
measure under 120, and the reigning sufferer of the lowest stress capacity
measured over 400.
If we think of this capacity as a bucket, our bucket sizes
vary according to our current state of health and vitality. Another consideration is, “how full is your
bucket?” You could have a thimble full
to the top (blood sugar over 400 after our stress challenge), or a barrel with
a few drops in the bottom (blood sugar under 120).
Clearly it is obvious which one we want to be, or achieve,
if our goal is health and happiness!
What shrinks your stress bucket? How do you end up with a thimble? A: Stress
overload, over the long haul. We all
have days of stress overload…you go to bed early, feeling frazzled and
exhausted. When that becomes the
“normal” day…every day, every week, month after month…you end up with a
thimble.
What fills our stress bucket? How do you fill the bucket so you are
spilling (stress overwhelm)? A: Compromised physiological needs…AND
compromised emotional needs. Both fill
the same stress bucket.
Physiological needs are simple…oxygen…glucose for energy
production…nutrition to energize and oxygenate…and movement and thought to
activate the central regulation hub of our energy and oxygen…the brain.
Emotional needs include: certainty, variety, connection,
significance, growth, and contribution.
Here’s the kicker…stress can make you grow and connect, take
action to feel significant…achieve financial and relationship security and feel
more certain…which allows you to contribute to others and take nice vacations
for a bit of variety.
And stress can make you withdraw, lose focus, be
inefficient, and effectively LOSE all these emotional needs, which is no less
exhausting than severe anemia, low thyroid, or physical exhaustion.
It all depends on the capacity you have for stress. How big is the bucket and how full is the
bucket?!?
If your bucket is full all the time…it will exhaust your
reserves. If your bucket shrinks…you
will be more and more sensitive to stress, sugar, exertion…you will be more
sensitive to life.
Then you have two choices…limit life…stress, sugar, and
exertion…OR work on emptying your current bucket and building a bigger
bucket. A rocking chair at the nursing
home…or like Jack LaLanne, swimming a mile pulling 70 rowboats…at age 70. It all depends on your stress bucket. Jack had a hell of a bucket at age 70, mostly
through stimulation…exercise, and nourishment…fruits and veggies. What if he knew about oxygen delivery and the
whole gamut of emotional needs? I’m not
complaining for him…he lived 97 pretty awesome years. BUT…scientists say we should all live 120
years (healthy years) based on calculations based on gestation periods and life
spans in nature. He did awesome…and
could we (yes, you and I) do better with less effort?
I personally don’t want to exercise 3 hours a day…that might
be a path to a healthy 90+ years, but I think if we consider the whole stress
bucket, we all could hit a healthy 97…or 120…by diversifying. Let’s keep that as a goal, but the reality is
that I see people as young as 20 and 30 in health crises…stress overwhelm,
shrinking and full bucket.
I measure oxygen perfusion in all my clients…and some bottom
out on oxygen when I ask them to move the arm we are measuring…not a candidate
for the Jack plan.
Jack pushed his body (and mind) WITHIN its capacity…repetitively…and
built up that bucket. He filled it half
full, maybe even full…and then fed his body…nourished, and rested….and emptied
that bucket. He probably never filled
his bucket with blood sugar problems, anemia, or lack of nourishment (although
as a kid he says he was a sugar addict).
He ate whole foods, is well known for his juicing machines, and more
than likely had energy to contribute, grow, and be significant.
He never spoke of these needs, so I assume he met them
without intention…or intending to. He
did it because it felt good. (Which is a
good lesson for meeting our emotional needs…it always feels good).
He lived the process I am teaching…and here it is: You have to notice your capacity, exercise
within that capacity (and my version of exercise means anything that trains the
brain, and can include thought and communication… any action or intention)…and
grow that capacity.
We can accomplish a bigger bucket through physiological
nourishment…improving oxygen and glucose delivery…energized and oxygenated
cells…which we accomplish through targeted nutritional support and treating
your body kindly (treating injuries, balancing energy through stimulating
meridians, centering your body in gravity, etc.) And we can build a bigger bucket through
improving emotional nourishment…certainty, variety, connection, growth,
significance, and contribution.
We have to start wherever we are…work within our stress
capacity, and push the limits without overwhelming them. We don’t want to miss any of our needs…simply
consider them all. A caretaker pattern
meets contribution needs, but compromises significance, because they “over
serve” others and don’t get what THEY want.
Not bad, but not good for the bucket.
It also compromises connection, because people who are over protected or
over cared for do not grow…and they show you in the form of resentment or lack
of appreciation.
We can empty the bucket by eliminating unnecessary stressors
such as artificial colors, preservatives, etc…food chemicals. Most of my patients are on top of those changes. We can empty the bucket by babying our blood
sugar regulation hormones…it’s as simple as eating protein every two
hours.
We can empty our bucket by noticing our triggers…our
emotional upsets…and noticing which needs are being compromised. People triggered by disruption need
certainty. People triggered by
unfairness need growth or contribution.
It’s not a hard and fast rule, but with a few questions we can easily
figure out what needs are compromised.
We can empty our bucket and build a bigger bucket by then
demanding that those needs get met. Not
violently through accusations and demands, but through taking action towards
your needs and asking for help.
Whatever you are sensitive to…conflict, sugar, chemicals,
exertion, ignorance, or stress itself…you are receiving a message that your
bucket is full, and perhaps shrinking. Any
sensitivity can be desensitized by emptying your bucket and building a bigger
bucket. Bar none.
So, my challenge to you…is to take inventory of your stress
capacity. Just look at your
sensitivities…if you hurt when you exert physically…your physical stress
capacity needs help. If you can’t eat
sugar, at all, let alone 70 grams of pure sugar…your chemical capacity needs
help. If you are triggered, often and
intensely, your emotional stress capacity needs help.
Then do something to change.
For physical capacity, try gentle exercises and notice if you can exert
10% more in 3 weeks…see a chiropractor, a massage therapist, take some yoga
classes. And notice what makes you feel
better…and repeat. For chemical
capacity, try protein every two hours, take some ashwagandha for cortisol, do a
greens and protein smoothie every day with blueberries and spinach, all blended
up. Notice what makes you feel better…and
repeat. For emotional capacity, notice
your triggers and use my article on triggers to categorize what you are
needing. Then ask for some agreements,
allow others to struggle and learn on their own, do some Emotional Freedom
Technique tapping…notice what makes you feel better…and repeat.
Labels:
Aging,
Chronic Fatigue,
Philosophy of Health,
Stress,
Triggers
Meeting Your Needs
If your symptoms are a message designed to notify you of a
need, how do we decide what you are needing and then provide that to turn off
the message? If we can answer that
question, we have a high probability of improving your health!
There are 3 levels of inquiring what these symptoms/messages
mean.
Level 1: Your symptom
questionnaires. We have categorized
hundreds of symptoms by system, organ, gland, and by areas of the brain. If your scores are over 50% of the possible
maximum score, we know that organ, gland, or area of the brain is under a great
deal of stress and demanding care. As
you approach 80-100% of the total possible symptoms, we might say that area is
“screaming” for attention.
Level 2:
Kinesiology. If we are attempting
to identify patterns of stress and inflammation, posture and muscle tone are
simple to view. Just stand up and notice
that one shoulder is higher, the hips are twisted to the right, etc. This observation provides clues to your
internal patterns. In order to move any
joint in any direction, we know with absolute certainty that one muscle or
muscle group has increased in tone, and the opposing muscle(s) have decreased
in tone. We locate the muscles decreased
in tone (weaker), and begin to ask what this pattern of muscle change is adapting
to (what you are needing).
Level 3: Blood
Chemistry. Your labs are a window into
your internal patterns. We can
objectively identify patterns of stress in any organ or system. These labs tell your story. Not your life story, but where life has
brought you to right this moment. We can
quantify the effects of stress and inflammation and see, by the numbers, the
impact they have had on your health. We
can measure your most vital elements, oxygen and glucose, during every
visit.
Not only does this 3 tiered evaluation approach provide
pointers and identify patterns, it then offers a target to shoot for. Reduce symptoms by meeting the internal
needs. Balance posture and muscle
balance through neurological and energetic treatments. Balance blood chemistry by using food and
nutrition to soothe, stimulate and nourish…followed by retesting to make sure
we are achieving our goals.
Physiological Needs
The basic needs of your cells… the building blocks of you…
includes oxygen and glucose. Stress and
inflammation compromise both. Glucose
can be measured with a simple glucometer, and oxygen can be measured with a
pulse oximeter. We can instantly know if
we have met your physiological needs through this in office testing. These needs are so critical that you will not
improve your condition without improving these numbers. They are vital to survival, and vital to
healing and growth. If we can improve
these two numbers, I would place a sizeable bet on your health improving.
Other physiological needs include water, and nutrients,
including protein and fats (healthy fats!), which are the building blocks of
your body. A rough analogy to a vehicle,
which is what your body is for you, in part…the protein and fats are the steel
and rubber, the glucose (carbohydrates) is the gasoline, vitamins and minerals
are like the spark plugs, fiber for emissions, water for coolant…oxygen, like a
vehicle, is needed to ignite the fuel.
Botanicals and herbs are like oil and gasoline additives…to improve
performance!
Like the title of my book asks… “When did Natural Become the
Alternative?” These are the needs that
must be met to improve your health. And
if your health improves, regulation improves, performance improves…and sooner
or later, if we keep meeting your greatest needs…you no longer qualify for the
disease or condition you were diagnosed with.
Emotional Needs
Your emotional needs, based on Five Element Chinese Medicine
philosophy, can be summarized as Structure and Security, Acceptance and
Inclusion, Nurturing and Support, Validation and Value, and Reassurance and
Responsiveness. And, YES, compromising
these needs has physiological effects…meaning shifts in stress hormones,
including cortisol and adrenaline.
Not achieving emotional needs ignites the stress response
internally, just like danger, lack of oxygen, or blood sugar imbalances. If we are good listeners, and respond the
only way that is possible, by choosing a different action, you can meet and
nourish all your emotional needs, just as you can nourish your body with
improved oxygen and healthy nutrients.
Structure and Security includes safety and boundaries. Think of Charlie Brown, always being talked
into kicking that darn ball, despite everything within him telling him “No!” The result is pain.
Acceptance and Inclusion includes being part of something
bigger than you…a part of a team. Think
of a caretaker type, doing so much for everyone else but not receiving any
appreciation. That hurts!
Nurturing and Support include close relationships that lift
you up when you are down…knowing someone “has your back.” No man is an island…think of people who are
counter culture to the point that they offend others by making them wrong,
ultimately pushing them away. Ouch.
Validation and Value means being ok with who you are…possibly
even liking you. Think of the fixer who
tries to make everything right for everyone else, only to receive resentment in
response. Frustrating!
Reassurance and Responsiveness includes the ability to face
adversity and change direction. Think of
the overachiever who tries to please through getting things done, only to
receive criticism in response.
Exhausting!
The key to emotional needs is good or bad habits. Good habits, like honesty, asking for
agreements, working on your message, working on your voice, you integrity…they
lead to nourishing your emotional needs…they lead to growth.
Poor habits, based on bad strategies, such as caretaking,
invisibility, convincing, fixing, and overachieving…which are grounded in
emotional pain, continue to erode your emotional needs until you withdraw, give
up, or otherwise throw in the towel.
Five element Chinese philosophy allows us to notice your negative
patterns and design a plan to meet your needs.
IF, and that’s a BIG “IF” ….you allow yourself to notice the pain. Bad strategies are all a plan to avoid the
pain…either through accepting a burden or defending yourself, others, and
ideas. The problem is that these
patterns are exhausting and compromise your health, by activating cortisol and
adrenaline…a stress pattern…and activating your WORST genetic potential!
Habits are nothing more than repetition, and with new
repetition (and a willingness), you can begin a new habit today to meet your
emotional needs. And that feels
GOOD!
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